Now that the holidays are quickly approaching, it’s time to start
thinking about Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, and Christmas. While the holidays
can be such a joyous time of year that brings feelings of warmth and love,
they can be stressful for newly divorced parents. If you’re headed toward
divorce, recently separated from your spouse, or if you’re in the divorce
process, you may feel conflicted about sharing your children for the holidays
and that’s only normal.
The holiday season can bring feelings of stress, loneliness, and emptiness
for divorcing parents, but it doesn’t have to be that way. If you
feel confused about how to go about
timesharing during the holiday season, we can help. In this article, we offer some
tips on how to handle
child custody during the holiday season.
Addressing the Holidays in the Divorce
When parents get a divorce, one of the critical aspects of their divorce
agreement will be child custody. In the absence of child neglect, child
abuse, spousal abuse, abandonment, and substance abuse, the courts strongly
encourage both parents to be as involved in their children’s lives
In situations where both parents are involved in the children’s upbringing,
they have to work together to work out a child custody agreement that
is in their children’s best interests, and the parenting plan must address
how the family will handle the holidays, along with summer vacation and spring break.
“How do we go about addressing the holidays so everyone is happy?”
Before parents come to any conclusions, first they should consider:
- The children’s ages
- Family traditions
- The distance between the parents’ homes
- Which holidays are special to each parent
- The children’s interests in the holidays
- The children’s school schedules
- The parents’ work schedules
Holiday Custody Arrangements
When it comes to holiday custody arrangements, there is no such thing as
a “one size fits all approach.” Most commonly, however, parents
will alternate holidays. For example, Parent A will get the kids on Thanksgiving
on even years and Parent B will get them on odd years.
As for Christmas, one parent may get the kids on Christmas Eve, while the
other parent gets them on Christmas Day, or they may rotate them each
year. But not all parents choose to rotate the holidays every year.
If the parents are on good terms, they can spend the holidays together
and warmly include each parent’s significant other in the mix. Generally,
the better the parents get along, the easier it is to be flexible during
the holidays. In high-conflict families, it’s better to stick to
the holiday schedule laid out in the parenting plan.
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For legal representation in your divorce or child custody matter,
contact R. Gregory Colvin, LLC at (407) 603-3460.