When it comes to
divorce, it is not uncommon for emotions to affect co-parenting relationships.
One spouse may be bitter because their ex was emotionally abusive, manipulating,
or controlling. A spouse may be hurt because their husband or wife was
bad with money, or because their spouse had an affair. If the couple argued
non-stop during the marriage, those arguments may not end after the divorce.
When former spouses are on bad terms, the parent with primary
custody of the children may lash out by blocking their ex from seeing their children
during their court-ordered parenting time. A custodial parent’s
methods may be blatant, or they may be more insidious. For example, a
mother may take her children on a vacation during their father’s
time with the kids. Or, a father with custody may put the kids in an extra-curricular
activity that’s on the same night of the week that the mother is
supposed to have the kids.
When Your Ex Won’t Let You See Your Kids
What if it becomes too much? All of a sudden, a missed day here or there
turns into weeks or even months without seeing your kids? If by this time
you realize that you’re being intentionally blocked or barred from
seeing your children during your court-ordered parenting time, you may
be wondering, “Do I still have to pay
child support if my ex won’t let me see my kids?”
You cannot stop paying child support if your ex won’t let you see
your children. Child custody and child support are two SEPARATE matters.
If you stop paying child support, you WILL be subject to enforcement actions
by your local child support agency and they won’t be pleasant. If
you fall behind on child support, you face:
- Driver license suspension
- Suspension of other licenses, such as professional, occupational, and recreational
(hunting and fishing)
- Wage garnishment
- Bank levies
- US passport denial
- Tax refund intercept
- Property liens
- And more
If your ex is barring you from seeing your children, continue paying child
support but take him or her to court. Intentionally blocking a parent
from seeing their children is a form of
parental alienation and the family courts frown upon it heavily. If you can prove that your
ex is intentionally stopping you from seeing your children, it could lead
to contempt of court charges, fines, possibly jail time (this is the last
resort), and even a change in custody (in your favor).
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