When Your Child Goes Through a Divorce
If your son or daughter is facing
divorce or a
child custody battle, you may be worried about how the divorce will affect your relationships
with your grandchildren. You may also be concerned about how your son
or daughter will handle the divorce process. Luckily, there are many ways
that you can help during this difficult time. At R. Gregory Colvin, LLC, our
family law attorney has extensive family law experience that affords him insight into how
best to help divorcing spouses, and how your role as a grandparent is
crucial during this time.
Protecting Relationships as Grandparents
When your child is going through a divorce, you may feel helpless, or like
you want to make things easier but don’t know how. Read on for tips
on how you can help during their divorce:
Listen: Be a good listener for your child, his or her spouse, and your grandkids.
Try to give unbiased advice, when it is solicited. Do your best to not
to badmouth either spouse to each other or your grandkids.
Support your child: This is not a matter of taking sides, as that is an unnecessary action,
but when it comes down to it, your child should be your priority, not
the ex, no matter what the circumstances.
Abide by parental rules: When it comes to your grandchildren, don’t make matters worse by
going against parental rules. Divorce is a difficult time for all involved,
so being a stable component of your grandchildren’s care is important.
Upholding the rules of your child and his or her ex allows them to focus
on moving forward, rather than undoing your sabotage.
Provide a stress-free zone: Give your grandchildren the peaceful, stress-free time that they need
while their parents are separating. Avoid talk about the divorce and provide
them with things to distract them. Children will often hold stress in
their bodies, so activities that involve movement such as playing tag
or dancing, are extremely helpful.
Keep the details to yourself: It is not your place to tell family members or friends or share news about
the divorce on social media. Give your child and his or her spouse the
privacy they deserve. Let them decide how and when the world knows about
Divorce and Custody Rights
If your son or daughter’s relationship is on the rocks, and you are
worried about their parental capabilities during the divorce, you may
be able to work with an attorney to ensure that things are handled effectively.
You may also be able to fight for custody, under certain extenuating circumstances.
The cases wherein Florida awards custody to grandparents include one or
more of 5 circumstances:
- The parent is unfit to care for the child.
- Visitation is in the best interest of the child
- Visitation is not detrimental to the parent-child relationship
- Both parents are deceased, or are incapacitated
- One parent is deceased, missing, or incapacitated and the other is a convicted felon
If you have questions about divorce, child custody, or grandparent rights
in Florida, discuss your concerns with our family law attorney at R. Gregory
Colvin, LLC. Attorney Colvin has years of experience with Florida law,
and can work with you through this difficult time. He understands that
the children’s best interests are of utmost importance, and he can
put your concerns to rest through legal counsel and representation. When
you need legal help during your child’s divorce, call on Attorney
Colvin for advice you can trust.
Contact our team at (407) 603-3460 to discuss your rights as grandparents.