Parental alienation is the process, and the result, of the psychological
manipulation of a child into showing unwarranted fear, disrespect, or
hostility towards a parent or other family members. This can be a serious
problem for parents who are engaged in high conflict disputes regarding
the parenting of their children after their divorce. In many of these
situations, the children who are involved are often coached and taught
to alienate one parent by the other parent. In this blog, we give you
three tips to help you fight against
Tip #1: Always Use Positive Language
This simple step is often overlooked, but is very important if you want
to avoid alienating your child. Instead of telling your child that you
miss them, let them know that you look forward to seeing them the next
time. This sounds more upbeat and positive. Use language that conveys
excitement, support, and positive reinforcement when you feel you have
missed an opportunity or important event due to custody arrangements.
Tip #2: Always Keep Your Plans
Don’t miss special plans or arrangements you have made with your
children just because you fear that your ex-partner will not let the kids
spend time with you as previously ordered. Being late or failing to show
up can be twisted by your ex into “proof” that you don’t
care about the children. Not keeping your plans gives your ex the the
power to further alienate the children from you.
Tip #3: Never Blame The Children
It is important to remember that the children are also victims in this
mess. It is easy to become frustrated when you learn that your ex-spouse
is making your children spy on you, talk about every move you make, and
report back on who you talk to or spend time with. However, you should
remember that this is a part of the alienator’s strategy. Getting
frustrated and placing the blame on your children only helps to further
alienate you from your children. Don’t let this happen.
Do you need help fighting against parental alienation? Contact our Orlando divorce attorney
to setup a free consultation today.