Divorce throughout the 50 States is based on a “no-fault” system,
which means that people can end their marriages whenever they want and
for whatever reason they want. The open ambiguity of the legal side of
divorcing does not mean that there are no specific reasons for divorce.
In fact, there are some top reasons why people choose to end their marriage,
even though they often do not specifically state it in divorce paperwork.
Some of the top reasons American couples get divorced, in no particular
Dependence: Couples that become so dependent on one another that they start to lose
their individual identities have a hard time lasting in the long run.
It is healthy and encouraged to have the things you like and the things
your spouse likes without forcing an overlap of interests.
Wrong motivation: Many divorcing couples feel like they were motivated to go through with
the wedding just because it had already been planned, or they had already
started working on their dream home together. Being motivated to get married
just for the sake of being married is generally not the groundwork of
a lasting marriage.
Parents more than spouses: Raising children is a full time job that demands more of you than anything
else, and in ways you have probably not encountered before. Many couples
who divorce later in a marriage say that they became so focused on being
a good parent, they lost sight of being a happy spouse. This is especially
troublesome once children become old enough to take care of themselves
and the parents start spending time with one another again, but find they
no longer connect.
Changing expectations: Everyone has a vision of their own success and how they want their spouse
to fit into that equation, which means your spouse has their unique expectations,
too. When your ideals start to shift away from theirs, it can be difficult
to close up that rift and continue share the same vision.
Intimacy, or lack thereof: Men and women alike tend to equate intimacy and romance with feelings
of love and appreciation. If conflicting schedules and typical complications
that come with married life reduce the frequency of a couple’s private
moments together, one or both of them may start to misread it as a lack
of love and interest, ultimately spiraling down into the want for divorce.
It is important to realize that casual intimacy, such as kisses out of
the door and holding hands in public, also help subconsciously strengthen
a marriage on a daily basis.
Financial disagreements: If one person spends often and the other wants to save, the marriage is
in for a rough go. Both spouses need to be in agreement with how their
money will be used, especially if they have agreed to create a joint savings account.
Arguments: Perhaps the most obvious reason on this list, frequent arguments can drive
a couple apart in a hurry. Conflict resolution is a skill that takes time
to master. Without it, spouses can think their small disagreements are
indications of a dysfunctional marriage and start thinking about divorce.
If you are going through a divorce for one of the aforementioned reasons,
or for some that are not on the list, you can turn to R. Gregory Colvin,
LLC for legal guidance and representation. Our Orlando divorce attorney
works hard each day to ensure that our clients are happy, comfortable,
and satisfied by the time their divorce is finalized.
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