Relationships of the strongest sort can still be incredibly difficult at
times to maintain. Unforeseen hardships, day-to-day stresses, wandering
curiosities, and more can all put pressure on marriages old and new. It
is not uncommon for it all to culminate as one or both spouses wanting
to dissolve their marriage and file for
If you are going to file for divorce, take a moment to consider these five
factors that may affect your decision, or make you double-check your choice:
Separation: Couples that know they are not happy but do not know exactly why may not
benefit from completely ending their marriage. In most states, they can
choose to legally separate to be apart but still hold onto some benefits
of being married. Florida doesn’t recognize legal separation, currently,
but you still may want to experiment with time apart to see if you are
comfortable with the idea of ending that relationship entirely.
Children: How will your divorce affect your kids? The answer is usually dependent on
how you handle your divorce. If the divorce is
uncontested, your children are more likely to feel stable at the end than in comparison
to a heated,
contested divorce. Pay attention your children’s behaviors, where they are likely
to show their true feelings about the divorce, and see if you can plan out
child custody and
child support well in advance to avoid any complications later.
Alimony: Will you be financially stable when your divorce is finalized? What about
your spouse? It does no one any good to be thrust into financial hardship
due to a divorce. Take some time to review your incomes and create a fair
alimony plan now that you can show your spouse or attorney later.
Living spaces: Just as you surely do not want yourself or your spouse to go bankrupt
after the divorce, you probably do not want either one of you to be thrown
out to the street. If you have close friends and family members you can
confide in, consider asking them if you can come live with them for a
little while as your divorce processes.
Relocation can be one of the more challenging aspects of divorce, as either you,
your spouse, or both will suddenly be in the market for a new home or
Holidays: Surprisingly, holidays are often reported to be one of the biggest sources
of pain for divorcees, especially in the first year after the divorce
is finished. Before you file, think of the family traditions you share
with your soon-to-be ex-spouse and take a moment to realize that those
are about to change. This is not meant to discourage or upset you but
just to let you be aware that your holidays are going to be different
from now, hopefully for the better.
In the end, no amount of preparation can truly prepare you for all the
potential troubles of divorce. All the planning and deliberation in the
world might not sway your opinion a single degree. The heart wants what
the heart wants, and you should always do what you think will make you happiest.
At R. Gregory Colvin LLC, our Orlando family law attorney genuinely wants
to help you get through your divorce with as little stress as possible,
starting with support for the filing process. Call
407.603.3460 today to request your
free consultation with a team that has more than 25 years of experience helping Florida
families through tough times.
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